How To Have Your Worst Date Ever – MyVeryWorstDate.com
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My Very Worst Date (MyVeryWorstDate.com) is a collection of the World’s most memorable dating disaster stories or in the blog’s own words “a commiseration of the moments when the sweet possibilities of romance turn into a sour struggle to get the hell out of the situation”.
Victoria and Jessica, the founders of My Very Worst Date, kindly agreed to answer a few questions and donate some of the knowledge they’ve learned on avoiding/creating the worst date ever.
What is the most popular post and do you have any personal favorites on My Very Worst Date?
We have so many that we have a “Best of” page. For pure craziness, we do love the guy who sends a text message with a picture of his “bits” to his date from the bathroom during their date. The full hilarity of the tale can be read here: Picture Imperfect. We also can’t get enough of the Bachelorette Parties story where a couple goes on a date to a bar and a wild bachelorette party arrives. The bride gets hammered and takes her top off. The guy on the date is clearly seduced and takes the bride to the bathroom for a quickie while his date just sits there.
Are there any of your own stories that you’ve contributed to the site?
Yes, we’ve both contributed a few. In keeping with the site’s anonymous submission policy, however, we couldn’t possibly blow our covers.
What dating tips can be learned from My Very Worst Date?
A majority of MVWDs happen because of poor communication. This includes lying on online dating profiles and not knowing when to speak up and call it a night on a date that’s clearly going awry. Now we understand that the dating war is fraught with anxiety and fear but we suggest a policy of honesty. If you’re overweight, don’t reveal that you’re “average” built. Just own it and be yourself. Your future prince/ss has got to love you for you. Similarly, it becomes clear that your date is not progressing smoothly (say perhaps it’s not moving from the parking lot of the local Walmart) or if your date is displaying some severely problematic behavior (such as revealing homophobic or racist attitudes or both), bow out of the situation as graciously as you can. If that fails, do what you can to run!
Can you suggest some surefire things someone can do on a date to become a subject of a My Very Worst Date post?
For starters: lying, severe intoxication, over sharing and making “moves” way too soon. Of course, some MVWDs are a result of things beyond anyone’s control–such as sudden projectile vomit. It’s worth noting that MVWDs can have happy endings. This woman spat beer and mash over her date twice, ruined his prized shirt but ended up marrying him: Stitches, Mash and Then Some…
What/Who are you favorite blogs/bloggers?
We love Gawker, Jezebel, Passive Aggressive Notes, STFU Marrieds, STFU Parents and Post Secret.
A big thank you to Jessica and Victoria for their time answering these questions. Visit My Very Worst Date for the latest dating disaster stories (and if you like My Very Worst Date you might also like Jessica’s and Victoria’s other sites My Very Worst Job and My Very Worst Roommate).
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Link to post | Posted by Eliot on May 18th, 2010 | Categorized as Advice, Features, Fun
Omegle Missed Connections now on MissedConnections.com!
I’ve just been looking through our logs and noticed we’ve been getting enough Omegle missed connections that it deserves its own mini site just like Chatroulette Missed Connections has.
So if you have a missed connection on Omegle, be sure to add it on Omegle Missed Connections at http://omegle.missedconnections.com.
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Link to post | Posted by Eliot on April 11th, 2010 | Categorized as Advice, News, Site news
Missed Connections Success Stories on Chatroulette
For all of the Chatroulette community members that have been asking, yep, we’ve had quite a few reconnections on Chatroulette missed connections. There are a few everyday. So if you’re wondering if it works, yes it does, for some but not everyone.
So if you’re interested in reconnecting the three things to best improve your chances are:
- Post your missed connection at Chatroulette Missed Connections right away with enough detail that your chat partner knows it is for them.
- Next, read through Chatroulette Missed Connections to see if someone has posted for you. If you want to be able to search by date, for now used the Advanced Search link on http://www.missedconnections.com/search/all (BTW, improving search on chatroulette.missedconnections.com is on the todo list, I’m the only person working on this so your continued patience on this is appreciated – thank you!). Of course reply to the ad if you see an ad for you.
- Help us with word of mouth! Let your Chatroulette chat partners know that chatroulette.missedconnections.com exists – word has spread well but like everyone we need all the help we can get!
Lets reconnect more missed connections and bring a bit more love and friendship into the world!
Read the latest missed connections from around the world here and the latest chatroulette missed connections here.
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Link to post | Posted by Eliot on March 11th, 2010 | Categorized as Advice, Site news
The Big Problem with Chatroulette missed connections on Craigslist
We talked, got cut off, then you posted to the Gainesville Craigslist Missed Connections, but it got flagged. I posted to CL MC for LA, but there were multiple areas so who knows if you would’ve seen it. I think you were wearing plaid, you made me guess what band you were playing (it was Big Black) and you were awesome. I’d love to chat again, I hope you see this!
Original chatroulette missed connection post: You: LA, Me: FL – BIG BLACK!
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Link to post | Posted by Eliot on February 27th, 2010 | Categorized as Advice, Craigslist, Site news
Craigslist missed connections – how to give it your best shot
Craigslist has a vibrant missed connections community. This community is one of the reasons I decided to set up Missed Connections.
If you post a missed connection to craigslist, which I recommend you do if you’re looking for someone, also post to the other missed connection sites, including ourselves, to give yourself the best shot of meeting that special someone again.
The good thing about the other missed connection sites is that they don’t have craigslist’s expiry policy.
I think craigslist NYC missed connection personal ads now expire after a week or perhaps a fortnight (it used to be 6 weeks). This advice is especially important if you are posting a missed connection that happened a few years ago, because the object of your affection is less likely to check craigslist in the 2 week window after you post, compared to checking at some point in the following few months/years. Your best bet is to post to all sites and re-post to craigslist everytime your post expires.
Good luck with your missed connections!
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Link to post | Posted by Eliot on January 23rd, 2010 | Categorized as Advice
Missed connections sites on wikipedia
Some of you would have read this advice on the blog before, so sorry for repeating it.
For the benefit of those that haven’t heard this before, a good way to boost your chances of reuniting with a missed connection is to post to as many missed connection sites as possible.
So as well as posting here on MissedConnections.com, also post to the missed connection websites listed on wikipedia here.
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Link to post | Posted by Eliot on January 18th, 2010 | Categorized as Advice
Gumtree Missed Connections gone! Don’t panic, we’re here…
So as of 5th January 2010, Gumtree missed connections are no more. I’d love to say that’s because they were so dedicated to reuniting missed connections they decided to forward their missed connections community over here but unfortunately no.
With Gumtree’s MCs section gone that pretty much leaves Craigslist and us as the major missed connection sites.
That’s good news for us all, our site will grow as a result, and because you’ll only need to post your missed connection to just two sites to give yourself the best shot at reconnecting with that special someone.
For new users, just search for missed connections in your town/city/postcode/village using the search box at the top of this page.
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Link to post | Posted by Eliot on January 11th, 2010 | Categorized as Advice, News
Sit by the subway/tube/metro door for more missed connections
Taken from the last paragraph of a recent Slate article on the psychology of travelling underground:
Has the era of the electronically immersed commuter, oblivious to all around him, lost in his playlists, signaled a decline in subway psychology? Not that I can find. One recent study conducted by officials at the Paris Metro—which looked at “missed connection” ads placed by urbanites looking for love in the city—found that the Metro “is without doubt the foremost producer of urban tales about falling in love.” The seats closest to the door, it seemed, offered the best opportunities for falling in love with the proper stranger. “The Metro is not the emotional desert, the social vacuum, that we sometimes believe it to be,” observed the chief of the Paris Metro. Indeed, whether bystanders or participants, we’re all part of an ongoing experiment.
So, sit on the seats closest to the door to boost your chances of having a missed connection. Better still, at the moment you have that connection, grab some courage, get off your bum and talk to the person so it doesn’t ever become a missed connection! (But if it does we’re here for you 
)
Photo credit: Thanks to Annie Mole for this excellent Gingerbread Man on the tube (read the full not quite fairytale story here on Annie’s blog)
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Link to post | Posted by Eliot on November 19th, 2009 | Categorized as Advice
How to avoid missed connections if you’re m4w
I recently put a call out on Help A Reporter to ask for real stories from women on how men have successfully approached them to get a date. Thank you to all those kind ladies that took the time to respond.
The stories fell into one of the following categories
- Man walks to her and the first thing he says is a compliment about her in some way. The compliment doesn’t have to be about her apperance, one guy complimented a woman on her car’s bumper sticker.
- Man initiates conversation with a compliment in a line. Two proven opening lines that were sent in are “A beautiful woman should never have coffee without pastry” (you need to be in a queue at a coffee shop for this one to work) and “Would a pretty girl like you mind striking up a conversation with a guy like me?”
- Make yourself approachable by being alone or only with one friend. High risk, you’re relying the woman will want to approach you.
- Man talks deliberately loudly to his friend about the same subject the nearby woman is talking about with her friend. The hope is that the lady will initiate a conversation. This one seems high risk but it worked for one guy.
So, from the handful of stories I received, the best strategy to avoid a missed connection seems to be to just approach the lady, open your mouth, and have a compliment fall out.
Photo: Thanks to Dave Gilbert for this great shot from the 70s.
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Link to post | Posted by Eliot on October 6th, 2009 | Categorized as Advice
Female Redditors tips on how to approach women
So, if you’re here, I guess you’re interested in missed connections, and there’s a chance you’re interested in how to get a date on a first meeting (preferable to resorting to a missed connection posting in terms of chances of seeing someone again), so take a look at this AskReddit question and responses if that sounds like you:
Dear women of reddit: How would you prefer a man express his interest in you?
From commenter cuberail: “Ask me for a coffee. That’s all. If I accept, it doesn’t mean I’m interested, but it’s a low obligation and face-saving way to find out I’m whether I am with you or not.” Read the rest of the tips
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Link to post | Posted by Eliot on September 17th, 2009 | Categorized as Advice
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